The Concerns of a 20 Year Old

I t’s been an exciting journey, no sarcasm intended. When people said 20 is going to be such a turning point, I’m one to agree. Ever since I turned 20 last year, things have been a little different. Like last week, instead of heading straight to a rack of clothes at H&M, I went straight for the home section. In less than 5 seconds I found myself looking at tabletops and pillowcases. As well as curtains and candles and utensil sets. I mean, what is up with that?!

How does it feel, though, turning 20? Here’s my take on that. Fun. Kinda. Insane? Definitely. And kind of weird. But also exciting. Liberating. Free. It’s like reversing your pre-adolescent phase but a little scarier because you know you’re supposed to be #adulting at 20.

I’m turning 21 in less than a month, and to wrap my 20 years of existence up, here are some of the things I’ve learned at 20, simplified. I won’t give you a list, instead I’ll shuffle them in paragraphs. That way, it’s more fun. And random. Ready?

Some days are going to be your day. Some days are going to be suck-y. But like the cliché quote you find on every Pinterest pin ever—it’s just a bad day, not a bad life. You learn to pick yourself up, and you carry on.

The same thing goes for motivation. Some mornings you wake up feeling extravagant and ready to take on the world, but other days even getting out of bed is a major struggle. That’s okay. Maybe you just need a break. Breaks are pretty, breaks are necessary. Take one.

Skincare is a necessary investment. Please, take care of your skin.

You won’t get along with everyone, but you learn how to be civil with people. You learn to smile and say a decent greeting and a simple hello whether you like it or not. And that my friends, is the harsh truth.

Netflix can either be a reward or a distraction. It’s all about balance, people!!!

A clean working space equates to a clear mind. In January I decided to pick up Marie Kondo’s books about tidying up, there’s two of them, and I decided to read both. She’s convincing, thus I tried her method.

But what really stuck to me isn’t her idea of keeping only the things that bring you joy.

Because then if I were to evaluate, say, my spoon and fork, I wouldn’t exactly say they bring me joy but the pair is a necessity so why would I throw them away?

It’s true what they say—worrying means you suffer twice

What really stood out to me is her method of setting aside a specific space for every single item you own. That way, you kind of just use whatever it is you need and put it back in place when you’re done. It minimizes your misplacing of things and you learn to designate each item to avoid a cluttered space.

I implemented this method not only on my desk but in my room as well, and let this be your testimony: my room was never messy again. Definitely gave me a clearer perspective on everything.

Moving along—most articles you read about turning 20 isn’t as real as they say. It’s actually not that frightening. It’s experimental and the process is different for every individual. You learn it your own way. Articles like this one, well, we’re just a guide. You actually learn things on your own.

The wizarding world will always be my fictional home. Some days that I feel off, I just turn to Harry Potter and voila, I immediately feel better.

Speaking of home, hold on to the things that make you feel at home. It’ll keep you sane.

It’s true what they say—worrying means you suffer twice. Try your best to be less of a worrier. It will save you the stress.

Always choose to see the good in people. Doing so gives you a more positive outlook in your day to day life. Same goes with certain situations you encounter, you must choose to always see the good in them. You don’t want to be like Scrooge, do you?

With all of the points I mentioned, I’d say turning 20 isn’t so much of a “quarter life crisis” as other people make it seem like. Because, at 20, I’ve learned to value independence and individualism more than ever. And putting that sense of independence and individualism in action, I’ve learned to have the proper drive and courage to face whatever it is that might be waiting ahead of me. Never in the past years have I seen the advantage it provides when you choose to accept things as they come, but now I’m glad I do. At 20, I’ve never been more accepting and welcoming of both the good stuff and the bad stuff that greet me along the way. Never have I been more contented of what the present holds for me.

And oh, by the way, next time we see each other at the home section of H&M, I’ll be sure to say hi. And if you have any idea when their next sale on pillows and pillowcases might be, let me know. Okay?

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